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Thank you, Lourie, for this fun idea!
The rules are:
- Thank the nominator.
- Post one quote each day for three consecutive days.
- Tag three bloggers.
I just finished a beautiful book about letting go of stress called Refresh: Embracing a Grace-Paced Life in a World of Endless Demands (affiliate link) and written by Shona and David Murray. It is truly beautiful how God speaks through them directly to my heart. This is one of the many books that I am reading to work through my perfectionism which leads to anxiety and depression, worsening my fibromyalgia symptoms. My perfectionism especially threatens my joy as the new school year looms. This quote comes from the chapter, Resurrection, the concluding thoughts of the book. They mention that Allan Malinger made a distinction between perfectionism and excellence in his book Too Perfect: When Being in Control Gets Out of Control (affiliate link) which now I must add to my list of books on my wishlist! They built this list off of his definitions of perfectionism and excellence.
- Perfectionism is rigid; excellence is flexible.
- Perfectionism is self-defeating; excellence is health giving.
- Perfectionism never satisfies; excellence gives pleasure.
- Perfectionism is impossible; the desire to excel is usually possible.
- Perfectionism does not distinguish between performing hear surgery and washing dishes: excellence recognizes that some activities require more attention than others.
- Perfectionism views failure as catastrophic; excellence views it as part of learning.
- A perfectionist’s sense of worth depends on perfect performance; excellence does not tie identity to performance.
- A perfectionist can only see what is lacking in a job or relationship; excellence sees what is good and enjoyable.
How beautiful would our lives be if we could remember these truths? We would be optimists. Perhaps we wouldn’t even know what to do with the extra energy we would save from giving up worrying about what we can’t control. We would be so much less afraid to try that new lesson plan or present that new idea. Discussions about the important subjects would be edifying and interesting instead of the breeding ground for resentment and insults.
Bloggers I’m tagging: (Check out these communities of bloggers! I find them greatly encouraging!)
Comment below with your blog link if you want to be considered to be tagged in one of next two blog posts.
What do you think about perfectionism versus excellence blogging friends?
How do you think the world would be different if we truly believed in these distinctions between perfectionism and excellence?