You may be expecting to read easy platitudes like: be more thankful, focus on others, and something the equivalent of – you’re not really depressed, you just need more sleep. Although there is some truth to these things, as someone who has struggled with the depression entangled with chronic illness, part of me stops listening when I hear these solutions. I have trudged through depression and want to give you some real tips to work through it that don’t require you to be superhuman, because, I hate to break it to you, you’re not.
I thought of naming this post “How Getting a Manicure Changed My Life: And Other Seemingly Dramatic Truths” but realized that might make you think this post was about superficial things when it is anything but.
When I’m depressed, I tend to have a low view of myself and my situation. This past week I made an appointment with a friend to get my nails done. By having the accountability of another person, I couldn’t talk myself out of it at the last minute as being something I didn’t deserve and, therefore, plunge into deeper depression and terrible self-doubt.
After treating myself to a marvelous Fruttella Bowl and glittery manicure while enjoying the life-giving companionship of my friend, my heart lifted. Whenever I look down at my manicured nails, I am reminded of my lovely time with my friend and affirmed in my view of myself as someone worthwhile.
Write It Down
I tend to forget my good days with fibromyalgia because the volume of my pain screaming at me can be so deafening it drowns out anything previous to it. I have now gotten into the habit of taking pictures of the things I get to do, keeping tickets of events I go to, and writing about my experiences in my diary. I think of them as my little Ebenezers. But how does that help me?
When I think to myself that I NEVER get to go out, that I NEVER do anything fun, and that my fibromyalgia makes it so I NEVER truly experience life, I reread my Instagram, look at my ticket stubs, and I reread my diary. There I find a woman who has great joy in life and gets to live this life with wonderful people doing fun things.
Read/Listen To A Fiction Book
Sometimes I just need to get out of my own head. What helps me do this is to read books. I recommend checking out one of my favorite fiction authors. I have found the worlds they create to be so engaging that I can forget that I am upset for a while. Here are the links to their websites.
Currently, I am reading
and listening to
I hope this helped you! What are some ways you fight depression? What has worked and not worked for you?