Defeating Defeat

The Recovering Perfectionist is excited to share with you yet another wonderful writer, Caroline Hultgren from Lily Mags & Co. We have enjoyed reading her work and think you will too!

Job 38

“Where were you when I laid the foundation of the earth?
Tell Me, if you have understanding.”

Job 38:4

Have you ever felt defeated, like really down in the dumps defeated? It feels like everything and everyone is against you, and you just jump from one struggle to the next. You just can’t see to get a win. Our family has been living that feeling the last few years. My husband’s plant closed down, but he had another job lined up so we moved because we were expecting our second daughter. Then, the job fell through. We started a business that didn’t pan out. I went back to work when my daughter was 6 months even though I was nowhere near emotionally ready to go back. We have car repairs and childcare and increasing strata fees to pay. Not to mention, the ridiculous cost of housing here in BC! We just haven’t been able to catch a break. It’s been exhausting, but there is HOPE!

All it takes is a change in perspective because, guess what?

It’s not about me or my family. It’s about God and His glory. - Caroline Hultgren, Defeating Defeat Click To Tweet

Job finally realizes this in Job 40:4&5 “Behold, I am insignificant; what can I reply to You? I lay my hand on my mouth. Once I have spoken, and I will not answer; Even twice, and I will add nothing more.”

It is so easy for us to sit around and have a pity party, to wallow in why is nothing going our way. We start to question if this all some sort of punishment from God from something we did in the past. Were we not generous enough when we had more? Were we not hospitable? Is there some uncovered sin in our hearts or our pasts?

When Jesus heals the man who was born blind in John 9:1-12, the disciples ask if the man was born blind because of his sin, or his parents sin. Jesus replies in verse 3 “It was neither that this man sinned, nor his parents, but it was so that the works of God might be displayed in him.” Bad things happen in life, things beyond our control. This is part of living in a fallen world, not because we are being punished.

We need to shift our eyes towards Jesus like God told Job to do. God pointed out to Job how much greater He is than anything else in life, even great losses. - Caroline Hultgren, Defeating Defeat Click To Tweet

Later in John 9, the formerly blind man says to the Pharisee’s (verse 25) “…one thing I do know, that though I was blind, now I see.” Jesus shifted his perspective, opened his eyes, to see Him and recognize Him as Lord and Saviour, just like God did with Job. The blind man’s eyes were opened and Job was restored (Job 42:10-17) for God’s glory, not their own.

God’s plans are so much bigger than ours, so much greater than we can understand. After all, He made the heavens and the earth!! - Caroline Hultgren, Defeating Defeat Click To Tweet

I hope and trust that one day our lives will be restored in the same way to bring God glory!

Hi there! I’m Caroline… spelled CaroLINE, pronounced CaroLYN. I know, confusing, right… I blame my parents. I am a wife to one husband and momma to two girls, both born prematurely. I started blogging as a way to share my journey with God through all the ups and downs of motherhood (and hopefully encourage others) as well as to be able to spend more time at home with my 2 favorite little people in the world, my daughters!

You can check out my blog at


Some of our other favorites from Caroline:

Fighting a Panic Attack: 4 Practical Tips

Obsessed with Picture Perfect

The Lame Walking


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