• Marriage

    How Perfectionism Was Ruining My Marriage

    The Recovering Perfectionist is delighted to welcome Amanda Warfield in her first guest post for us! We connected through Instagram, so you should definitely take a look at her feed! It is beautiful, fun, and thought provoking.     Growing up, I always had a streak of perfectionism inside of me. Usually, it only came out occasionally and I could tamp it down pretty easily. I’ll never forget though after 3rd-grade state testing results came in, I received an average on the science portion and I cried about it. I was so disgusted with that “average”. I didn’t want to be average. I didn’t even want to be above average.…

  • Fibromyalgia,  Health,  Marriage

    What to Do With Chronic Illness Guilt

    Thank you to The Mighty for publishing this post! My husband opens the door for me, and I slip into the front seat. Suddenly, I feel the familiar shooting pain. Immediately my mind goes through a checklist:   Did I have sugar? Well, I mean, not directly. Just a little, maybe 3 pieces of dark chocolate. It was dark chocolate though! That stuff is supposed to be good for you, right?   Did I have dairy? No, I didn’t! I said no to the pleasant smell and warmth of pizza, free pizza, today! I should get a medal!   Did I sleep well last night? No. No I did not.…

  • Fibromyalgia,  Marriage


    This morning I was woken up by the pain and flailing that are all too common for my Saturday mornings. Yesterday I had told myself I would relax but that I would clean the apartment on Saturday. I truly looked forward to it. As soon as I woke up though, I realized that cleaning was not an option for me today. My husband was woken up by my flailing. I immediately felt guilty for disturbing his sleep. This feeling melted away as he held me tightly. I whispered to him, “I don’t think I’m going to be able to clean today.” He spoke to my heart, “I know this sucks, but…

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